Long Distance Relationships: Feeding the Fire From Afar

As difficult as long distance relationships may be, technology has made it easier than ever for couples to keep the passion strong while under separate sheets.

Phone Sex

Despite the fact that moaning with your lover on the phone can be downright thrilling, many people feel uncomfortable or just downright goofy about the notion of phone sex. This can be overcome in a number of ways. With shy lovers, initiate phone sex subtly, with innocent but sexy leading lines: "honey, if you were in bed with me right now I would love to nibble on your ear and make you shake the way you do." Try to be as specific as possible and reference certain things that you know she likes; this can bring her back to intimate memories and get her a little more in the mood. Start your dialogue off somewhat innocently as you steadily work your way into more intimate and dirty territory; heat it up slowly, especially the first time. She may not go along with it right away but you can gradually get her more comfortable with gentle questions like "would that feel good?" or "what do you wanna do to me?" It is important to treat every response you get from her with enthusiasm and appreciation. Never belittle or make fun of anything she says during phone sex; many people feel very vulnerable during such an intimate exchange and the slightest stab at their ego can put an end to future phone fun. On the other hand, humor can break the ice and make both people more comfortable so make her laugh a little. Put on your best Barry White voice and be a little goofy. Fun is what phone sex is all about so don't take it too seriously.

When your ready to take it to the next level tell her how much you'd love it if she started touching herself. "Why don't you lightly stroke the inside of your thigh with your fingertips." Again start slow and build. Its also much hotter to give her specific directions; that way its as if you yourself are pleasuring her with your unique touch; though don't discourage if she goes her own way.

Sex Messaging

Just like phone sex only with text messages. Exchange sexual thoughts, desires, or scenarios in the privacy of your own phone. Less pressure than actually talking on the phone making it a great pre-cursor to phone sex, plus you can do it anywhere. Nothing flares up the monotony of a day at the office like a text from your girl about where she wants to lick you.*

Honor Thyself

When your doing the long distance thing you should reward your loyalty and patience with some quality porn. A month long membership to a decent site usually costs about $30; a lot less than what you'd spend on on a date right? Utilize the money you've been saving and give yourself some quality 'me-time,' you deserve it.

*DISCLAIMERS

1. Keep an eye on your phone and tell her to do the same! Text messages usually appear on the front of cellphone screens making it easy for people to read them if the phone should be left unattended. Be cautious and practice safe sex messaging.

2. Make sure you're sex messages go to the right recipient. Its frighteningly easy to send out texts intended for somebody else; DO NOT LET THIS HAPPEN DURING SEX MESSAGING. Imagine accidentally sending a sex message to, lets say, your grandmother, or even worse your ex. Text carefully.