Tantalizing Venus

Sultry, Nude, and Tattooed; The Pontani Sisters Knock the Sox off the Corio Crowd

2008-09-29T08:48:00.000-07:00

This weekend I saw This is Burlesque, a stunning burlesque show at downtown club called Corio here in New York. The headliners were a ravishing trio of vivacious vixens called The Pontani Sisters. The sisters, Angie Pontani, Helen Pontani, and their newest addition, the lovely Peekaboo Pointe, did a series of glittery, jaw dropping, tassel twirling, dance numbers and stripteases that were super erotic and just so much fun! Their glitzy and glamorous style infused with just plain naughtiness captured the feeling of 1920's prohibition-era gin joints and swing clubs to the point where the experience almost felt illegal; I loved every second of it.

What stood out beyond the nakedness and playful comedic shtick was the sheer talent of these performers; one in particular was Helen Pontani who did a killer ragtime tap-dance routine that would have stolen Savion Glover's heart right out of his shoes. Another treat was the vocal stylings of 'Sexy Chanteuse' Melody Sweets; imagine the flare and poise of Betty Paige plus the gentle comfort and bluesy seduction of Norah Jones.

The show was an exhilaratingly good time and it was just so refreshing to watch gorgeous women take their clothes off in an entirely non-explotive performance. I personally feel that modern burlesque performers such as The Pontani Sisters are re-empowering the neo-feminist movement by reclaiming their sensuality and sexual pride in a truly dignified art form.

Buy tickets online here or over the phone at (212) 966-3901. If you have kids hire a sitter because there's lots of nakedness !

:::Tantra:::

2008-09-22T14:09:00.000-07:00

I recently got into a conversation with a friend about Tantra. He’s been practicing for 6 months and therefore has not had a single orgasm at all in those 6 months. This sounded crazy and entirely inconceivable but the more he explained it to me the more it made absolute sense.

Now, guys, think about what normally happens when you climax; you release, you relax. The fire has been put out, and at this moment you're either lighting up a cigarette or halfway to sleep. Now think about what happens when you don’t for a really long time; you're super-horny, your energy levels rise, your body is really sensitive, and sex has never felt so good. By not coming, your sexual energy builds and builds which greatly heightens the sensations of sex.

Personally, I love lengthy, exhausting sex that puts me into a slumber coma after I have a full blown orgasm. However, I kinda want to give Tantra a try because I think it has a lot to offer. I’m not seeing my girlfriend for another two weeks so I have plenty of time to ‘save my chi’ and just build that tantric vitality so when the time comes the sex will be mindblowing. To prepare for the necessary 'ejaculatory longevity,' I’ve been doing 'bagels' (ball kegels) where you tighten your prostate like you have to pee then release. These exercises are supposed to really help strengthen your prostate and give you more control over your orgasm. For specific instructions click here.

From what I understand a core purpose of Tantra is to suspend the duration of lovemaking by taking the focus away from the orgasm and redirecting it towards the sex itself so that you can enjoy every hot minute through your awareness of the current pleasure as opposed to the upcoming climax. I do think that when it comes to making love, most people fixate on either having an orgasm themself or giving one to their partner. It can get to the point where we miss out on all the zesty pleasures of the sex itself and consequently don’t even enjoy the orgasm as much as we're capable of because of the pressure we put ourselves under.

In considering this, I think I began to understand greater meanings of Tantra. Tantra strides to ultimately cultivate a strong focus on the present as opposed to the future or the past. I feel that many of us, me included, focus greatly on what is yet to come (no pun intended) as opposed to what is right in front of us. We are not able to absorb and enjoy the simple pleasures and moments in our lives because we are too focused on other things in the distance. Tantra is intended to enable people to regard life, as well as sex, as a vast and enjoyable journey; not an eventual destination.

I'm starting to like the idea of it more and more,

thanks for reading,

Photograph courtesy of MuseumWholesale.com (the statue itself can be purchased at this site)

Long Distance Relationships: Feeding the Fire From Afar

2008-09-17T14:31:00.000-07:00

As difficult as long distance relationships may be, technology has made it easier than ever for couples to keep the passion strong while under separate sheets.

Phone Sex

Despite the fact that moaning with your lover on the phone can be downright thrilling, many people feel uncomfortable or just downright goofy about the notion of phone sex. This can be overcome in a number of ways. With shy lovers, initiate phone sex subtly, with innocent but sexy leading lines: "honey, if you were in bed with me right now I would love to nibble on your ear and make you shake the way you do." Try to be as specific as possible and reference certain things that you know she likes; this can bring her back to intimate memories and get her a little more in the mood. Start your dialogue off somewhat innocently as you steadily work your way into more intimate and dirty territory; heat it up slowly, especially the first time. She may not go along with it right away but you can gradually get her more comfortable with gentle questions like "would that feel good?" or "what do you wanna do to me?" It is important to treat every response you get from her with enthusiasm and appreciation. Never belittle or make fun of anything she says during phone sex; many people feel very vulnerable during such an intimate exchange and the slightest stab at their ego can put an end to future phone fun. On the other hand, humor can break the ice and make both people more comfortable so make her laugh a little. Put on your best Barry White voice and be a little goofy. Fun is what phone sex is all about so don't take it too seriously.

When your ready to take it to the next level tell her how much you'd love it if she started touching herself. "Why don't you lightly stroke the inside of your thigh with your fingertips." Again start slow and build. Its also much hotter to give her specific directions; that way its as if you yourself are pleasuring her with your unique touch; though don't discourage if she goes her own way.

Sex Messaging

Just like phone sex only with text messages. Exchange sexual thoughts, desires, or scenarios in the privacy of your own phone. Less pressure than actually talking on the phone making it a great pre-cursor to phone sex, plus you can do it anywhere. Nothing flares up the monotony of a day at the office like a text from your girl about where she wants to lick you.*

Honor Thyself

When your doing the long distance thing you should reward your loyalty and patience with some quality porn. A month long membership to a decent site usually costs about $30; a lot less than what you'd spend on on a date right? Utilize the money you've been saving and give yourself some quality 'me-time,' you deserve it.

*DISCLAIMERS

1. Keep an eye on your phone and tell her to do the same! Text messages usually appear on the front of cellphone screens making it easy for people to read them if the phone should be left unattended. Be cautious and practice safe sex messaging.

2. Make sure you're sex messages go to the right recipient. Its frighteningly easy to send out texts intended for somebody else; DO NOT LET THIS HAPPEN DURING SEX MESSAGING. Imagine accidentally sending a sex message to, lets say, your grandmother, or even worse your ex. Text carefully.